Features
Everything you need to meet trans singles
Profiles that say who you are, matches that respect it, and privacy built in from the first click.
Every member gets a full profile, daily match suggestions, a limited number of messages a day and a free ID check (blue tick). VIP adds unlimited messaging, advanced search, chat rooms and the list of everyone who likes you. VIP Plus puts you at the top of other members' matches.
A profile that says it for you
Your profile does the explaining, so the chat can get straight to the fun part. Alongside your photos and a few lines about yourself, you pick from interests made for this community: trans woman, trans man, crossdresser, en femme, en homme, full time, stealth, intersex, queer, TS-friendly and transfan among them.
You also say what you are after, from friendship to regular dates or something casual. So before anyone writes, they can see whether you are full time or dress now and then, and what kind of fun you have in mind. Fewer awkward questions, more good conversations. If some of the words are new to you, our guide to trans dating terms explains them.
Daily matches that know what you are after
Each day brings a new set of match suggestions. The matching looks at the ages you have chosen, gender identity and who you want to meet, distance, how recently people have been active, what you are looking for, your interests, and lifestyle details such as drinking and smoking. It finds the opportunity; what happens next is up to you both.
You can also browse members on your own. VIP members get the advanced filters, which let you search a particular city, set a distance, or look for people open to exactly what you are.
More ways to flirt and chat
Private messages are the core of the site. A Classic member can send a limited number of messages each day and can read and reply to anyone on VIP or VIP Plus who writes to them. VIP lifts the limit entirely.
VIP also opens the members' chat rooms, which are a good way to get used to the community before you message anyone one to one, and lets you start a private group chat for up to 50 people. Everyone can comment on articles and posts, answer polls and quizzes, and post photos and status updates to their profile.
Classic, VIP and VIP Plus at a glance
| Feature | Classic | VIP | VIP Plus |
|---|---|---|---|
| Profile, photos, browsing | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Daily matches | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Comments, polls, quizzes and badges | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Messages | Limited each day | Unlimited | Unlimited |
| Reply to paid members | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| ID check (blue tick) | Included | Included | Included |
| Advanced search filters | No | Yes | Yes |
| Chat rooms and group chats | No | Yes | Yes |
| See who likes you | No | Yes | Yes |
| Rewind profiles you passed on | No | Yes | Yes |
| Priority comment placement | No | Yes | Yes |
| Exclusive matches | No | No | Yes |
| Top of members' matches | No | No | Yes |
| Priority messages and likes | No | No | Yes |
| Profile boost and Super Match | No | No | Paid add-ons |
Prices for every plan length are on the prices page.
Know who you are talking to
Nobody likes a fake profile. A free ID check (blue tick) is open to every member and takes a government ID. Prefer not to upload anything? A live video check with a moderator confirms who you are, no documents needed. Our team can also validate a profile by hand.
Behind the scenes, new photos and messages are screened as they arrive, unusual behaviour is flagged early, and you are warned if someone tries to move the chat to WhatsApp or another app, which is a common opening move for scammers. Every member carries a rating built from how they behave and the feedback they get, so you can judge at a glance who is trustworthy. More on all of this on the safety page.
Keep it discreet
We want to keep your online fun discreet. You choose a username, your real name and email are never shown publicly, and your location appears only as your nearest town. Sensitive photos are blurred with a warning until the viewer chooses to see them. VIP payments do not show the site name on your bank statement, and you can block anyone instantly.
On your phone, tablet or computer
My Transgender Secret runs in your browser, so there is nothing you need to download, and you can add it to your home screen, where it behaves just like an app. Read more about using the site on your phone.
Good to know before you join
Can Classic members send messages?
Yes. Classic members can send a limited number of messages each day, and can read and reply to any VIP or VIP Plus member who writes to them.
Do I have to verify my ID?
No, it is optional, but there is a free ID check and the blue tick shows other members you are genuine. If you prefer not to share a document, choose the live video check with a moderator instead.
Can I hide my profile from people I know?
Your real name is never shown publicly and your location is only your nearest town. If someone you know finds you, block them and they can no longer see or contact you.
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