Comparisons
Find the trans dating app that is right for you
Fair, side-by-side comparisons with Tinder, Grindr, Taimi and TransDate.
Tinder has reach, Grindr and Taimi have queer community, and My Transgender Secret is the one made for trans women, crossdressers and their admirers. Below, we sit side by side with Tinder, Grindr, Taimi and TransDate, with what each does well and who it suits, all checked on 13 October 2026.
Starting with the big question? Read Is there a dating app for trans people? for every live option in one table.
| Service | Best for | Where it runs |
|---|---|---|
| My Transgender Secret | Trans women, crossdressers and admirers wanting a discreet, dedicated site | Any browser |
| Tinder | Mainstream reach | Apps and browser |
| Grindr | The gay and bi men's scene, trans men dating men | Apps; browser for paid members |
| Taimi | A broad LGBTQ+ community with social features | Apps |
| TransDate | Adult chat and webcams; join link led to AdultFriendFinder | Browser |
See how we stack up
- My Transgender Secret vs Tinder
Mainstream reach and gender options beyond man or woman, against a site made for trans dating. Plus how to find trans women on Tinder.
- My Transgender Secret vs Grindr
Grindr added trans identities and pronouns in 2017 and has strong privacy tools, but its crowd is mostly gay and bi men.
- My Transgender Secret vs Taimi
A wide LGBTQ+ app with an AI dating assistant, against a site centred on trans dating.
- My Transgender Secret vs TransDate
An adult trans site whose join link led to AdultFriendFinder when we checked, against a site you join directly.
How we compare, and why you can trust it
Every fact about another service on these pages comes from that service's own website, its app store listing, or reputable reporting, and was checked on 13 October 2026. Each comparison has a section on when the other option may suit you better, because the right choice depends on what you want.
Tinder, Grindr and Taimi make their money from paid upgrades, and My Transgender Secret from its VIP plans. Ours are on the prices page.
Three questions to find your best fit
Ask yourself three questions. First, who are you hoping to meet? For trans women, or the men who admire them, a trans dating site puts you among them straight away; on a general app such as Tinder, you sort through everyone else first. Second, how discreet must it be? If you are not out, an app icon, your name on a profile or a dating site on your bank statement all matter. Third, what do you want: regular dates, a friend, or something casual? Every service here handles each one a little differently.
If you want the wider picture, Is there a dating app for trans people? sets out every live option side by side, including Butterfly, HER and Feeld.
Straight answers before you choose
Which app is right for trans dating?
For mainstream reach, Tinder. For a wide LGBTQ+ community, Taimi, and for the gay and bi men's scene, Grindr. For a discreet site made for meeting trans women, crossdressers and their admirers, My Transgender Secret.
Can I use more than one?
Yes. Nothing stops you keeping Tinder or Grindr for reach and a trans dating site for focus.