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Trans Women Dating: Meet Trans Women for Dates and Fun
A place where wanting to date a trans woman is the reason you are here, not something to hide.
The easiest way to date a trans woman is to join a site made for it. On My Transgender Secret, meeting trans women and crossdressers is the whole point, so you never have to wonder whether a match is open to it. Be respectful, read her profile, and talk to her as you would any woman you liked.
No awkward reveal, no guessing
Here, the question of whether someone is open to dating a trans woman is already answered: that is what the site is for. She does not have to brace for the reveal, and you do not have to hide what you like. You can both get on with the fun part: finding out whether you like each other.
Start with your daily matches, which take in the ages, distance and what you have said you want, then browse. VIP members can see everyone who has liked them, a nice way to know where you stand.
Trans singles of every age
More than 1,800 members joined as CD/TRANS, the sign-up option for trans and crossdressing people. Profiles can carry labels such as Transwoman, Full Time, en Femme, Stealth and Crossdress, so read before you write. More than half of those members are aged 25 to 34, and every age group is represented.
Her profile can show what she is open to, from friendship to something casual or regular dates. If what you want matches what she has written, say so plainly and politely.
How to make a good first impression
Start with her, not with her being trans
Comment on something in her profile: a photo, a hobby, a place she has been. Skip the questions about her body, her surgery status or her past. If she wants to tell you about her transition, she will, when she trusts you.
Be clear about what you want
If you want something ongoing, say so. If you want something casual, say that, and say it kindly. Honesty goes a long way, and that includes being honest that you are new to this and have not told anyone yet.
Discreet is fine, just say so
Some dates happen over dinner in town, some behind closed doors. Either can be fun, as long as you are honest from the start about which you are after. If this is all new to you, our article Is it OK to be attracted to a trans woman? is a good place to start, and how to meet trans women goes further.
Safe and discreet on both sides
Nobody sees your name or email, and profiles give a town rather than an address. Members can get a free ID check (blue tick) or take a live video check with a moderator, no documents needed, so you can see who is genuine before you reply. She can block anyone instantly, and so can you. If you upgrade to VIP, the site name does not appear on your bank statement. Read our safety page.
Dating a trans woman: the honest answers
Where is the best place to date trans women?
A site made for it, such as My Transgender Secret, where nobody has to wonder whether you are open to dating a trans woman. If you are weighing it up against Tinder, see how we compare.
Does dating a trans woman make me gay?
No. Trans women are women, so being attracted to one does not make you gay. Straight, bi, queer or no label at all: what you call yourself is up to you.
What should I not say to a trans woman?
Avoid opening with questions about her body, surgery, hormones or her name before transition, and never use slurs. Talk to her as you would any woman you liked.
Your next date with a trans woman starts here
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