About us
A place where your secret is safe
Online since 2022, for trans singles, crossdressers and their admirers.
My Transgender Secret is a fun, discreet adult dating site made for meeting trans women, trans men, crossdressers and non-binary people. You join as a man, a woman, a couple or CD/TRANS. The site has been online since 2022 and moved onto the HubPeople dating platform in March 2025. HubPeople handles the technology, the safety checks and the payments.
Every secret deserves a safe place
The name says it all. Trans, dressing now and then or quietly admiring, your secret is yours to share when you choose. We will keep your secret if you can. That is why discretion runs through everything here: usernames instead of names, town-level locations, and billing that leaves the site name off your statement.
Out and proud? You are just as welcome. Here being trans is the starting point, not the topic of every first conversation, so you can get straight to the flirting and make new memories with trans singles and admirers.
Who you will find here
Nearly 15,000 members have a profile. Most live in the UK, with members in the USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand and Ireland too. Of all the regions, Greater London has the most members, with Ontario next, and Greater Manchester, the West Midlands, California, Texas, Florida and New South Wales have more than 300 each. Our locations page has more.
More than eight in ten members are men, more than 1,800 joined as trans or crossdressing members, and the rest are women and couples. Over half are aged 25 to 44, and more than a quarter are 55 or over. Trans and crossdressing members are younger on the whole: more than half of them are under 35. Your profile says what you are after, from friendship to something casual, and your daily matches take it into account.
Looked after around the clock
HubPeople runs the site's engine: profiles, matching, messaging, a free ID check (blue tick), a live video check with a moderator, moderation of every photo and message, and a support team on hand 24/7. That leaves this site to do one thing well: discreet, fun trans dating. VIP is there when you want more, and you can read more on our features, safety and prices pages.
House rules that keep it fun
- Adults only. Every member must be 18 or over.
- Be who you say you are. Use your own photos and be honest about what you are looking for.
- Respect identities. Use the name and pronouns people give. Mistakes happen; repeated misgendering does not belong here.
- Ask before you get explicit. Not everyone is here for the same thing. Read the profile, and let the other person set the pace.
- Never out anyone. What someone shares with you on this site stays with you.
- No money, no selling. Never ask a member for money, and never advertise services. Report anyone who does.
- Report, do not retaliate. If someone crosses a line, block and report them and let our team deal with it.