Guides
Trans dating advice for the questions you are shy to ask
For trans women, crossdressers and the people who want to date them.
Straight answers to the questions trans singles and admirers ask most: how to meet trans women, whether there is a dating app for trans people, what the words on profiles mean and where to go on a first date.
Each one is a quick read. Pick your question, get your answer, then go and say hello.
Pick your question
- Is there a dating app for trans people?
The short answer is yes. Here are the options side by side, and who each one suits.
- How to meet trans women
Where to look online and in person, what to say first, and the mistakes that end a conversation.
- Is it OK to be attracted to a trans woman?
Yes. What the attraction means, the myths that cause needless shame, and how to pursue it respectfully.
- Transgender dating: building confidence and connection
Practical advice for trans daters on confidence, disclosure, fetishisation and finding someone who sees all of you.
- Trans dating terms explained
En femme, full time, stealth, MTF and FTM, admirer and chaser: what the words on profiles mean.
- First date ideas that feel good for both of you
Ten first dates that are public, relaxed and easy to leave, and how to plan one well.
- Is My Transgender Secret legit?
Who runs the site, how members are checked, what a Classic account can do and how billing works.
Not sure where to start?
If you are new to all of this and have never told anyone you are attracted to trans women, start with Is it OK to be attracted to a trans woman? and then how to meet trans women. If you are trans or crossdressing and nervous about dating, read building confidence and connection and our safety page. If you are wondering where to date, start with is there a dating app for trans people? and our comparisons.
When you are ready to meet people, see who is near you. Our places page covers trans dating in the UK, the USA, Canada, Australia and Ireland, and its UK city pages add local first-date ideas.
Old favourites, new home
Where did the old blog go?
Our blog posts now live here, under Guides, with some new guides alongside them.
Who writes the guides?
My Transgender Secret writes them, and each guide shows when it was written or first published.
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